A common misconception is a person separated from his or her spouse may date or go out with members of the opposite sex.
Lawyers generally have done a poor job of advising their clients as to dating.
The prohibition is not against dating; the prohibition is against adultery. Problems arise in trying to convince a hard-nosed adverse attorney and a skeptical judge what began as an innocent date did not end as adultery. If you and a date go to a public event or a restaurant with a group of people and are never alone together, then no reasonable person will find that adultery occurred; however, I do not recommend that you try it.
Few people are caught in the actual act of adultery. Adultery must usually be proved by circumstantial evidence. Two circumstances must be proved: First, the person is inclined to commit adultery, and second, the person had the opportunity to commit adultery. My domestic relations professor taught: "Everyone is inclined to commit adultery. Therefore all you really need to prove is opportunity." Opportunity may be two people alone in a home together, in a motel together, or a parked automobile together.
Separation is not divorce. This is true even where a written separation agreement, or even a court ordered separation, exists. Separation is the worst of two worlds. It has the disadvantages of being married, the disadvantages of being divorced, but has the benefits of neither.